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The virtuous woman's husband is well known among the men. What does this have to do with her? What can we learn from this verse?
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(Pro 31:23)Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
We know that she is trustworthy. He trusts his wife with all things including his reputation. She handled this responsibility carefully and made sure that she did not tarnish his reputation.
How did she do this?
She spoke only good things of her husband. Was he perfect? No. Did do things that upset her? I'm sure he did! But she didn't tell everyone about them!
(Pro 14:1)Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.When a group of women get together often talk goes to life at home. How easy it is for us to say "Let me tell you what my husband did..." It seems like with some this even turns into a competition, trying to see if they can beat the others stories. We must refrain from doing this! We must be slow to speak!
(James 1:19)Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrathThat's a tough one sometimes. Taming our tongue is not easy but we must work at it!
(Pro 16:28b)a whisperer separates the best of friendsSpeaking badly of our husband can damage our relationship. Think about how you would feel if your husband told his friends some of the things you did wrong! Many don't think about this! We can't forget it though. It's far too easy to get caught up in the moment when others are speaking of their husbands. We have a few options here: keep quite, leave the conversation, or say something good about your husband!
Make sure your husband is known by the good things he's done and not the bad! :)
It took me a long time to 'get' how bad mouthing my husband was hurting our relationship. I justified it as blowing off steam and just getting things off my chest, but it really was putting my husband in a bad unfair light to whomever I was venting too.
ReplyDeleteTaming our tongue is hard, but necessary in all of our relationships.
Thanks for your post! I have found it amazing the things women will say when they get together! And as a pastor's wife, I hear everything!! I was in shock once to hear that a group of women weren't including children in an event because they wanted to be able to 'dish on their husbands'. It's definitely hard sometimes to keep our mouths shut, but opening it is way more harmful. Wonderful words!
ReplyDeleteBeing a military wife, I am all to familiar with wives getting together and speaking poorly of their husbands, because often times we are left all alone for long periods at a time. I try and try to stay as far away from it as a can, but sometimes catch myself falling into that sin. Thank you for reminding me that I need to do better.
ReplyDeleteThis is something I struggle with so much! Thanks for the reminder!
ReplyDeleteThis is a great reminder to us all!! TY :)
ReplyDeleteThank you for this reminder! This is wonderful! Thank you for linking up with Gods Most Precious - Hope to see you there next week!
ReplyDeleteMonica
Thank you for such a thoughtful post!!
ReplyDeleteHi Ashlyn,
ReplyDeleteThese are some very good points. Especially if our husband desires to become a deacon or elder. He must be of good reputation. If his own wife doesn't speak honorably how can others?
Thanks for linking up with Marriage Moment!