A Look at Modesty

It's that time of year again. You know when temperatures rise and the amount of clothing lessens? In public, it's nearly impossible to avoid seeing. But sadly, many proclaiming the name christian will follow suit as well. Picture of their proms, beach trips, and just hanging out with friends whole dressed immodestly have begun to flood Facebook and Instagram. It just hurts my heart seeing these friends and brothers/sisters in Christ dressed so and then on top of that, posting it for the world to see!

What's the big deal with modesty anyways?

God expects modesty from his children. We must honor this command. These are a few other reasons that we would be modest.
  • Out of self-respect -- God made us and our bodies are his temple. (1 Cor 6:9) We are precious to God and we don't need to be immodest in order to fit in or show off. Doing so shows that we do not respect God's creation-ourselves.
  • Out of respect for our (future)husband -- God meant for your body to be seen by one person and one person only-your husband. Dressing immodestly doesn't keep this gift for your husband. You are showing off your body to the world. Respect your (future)husband enough to save this precious gift for him alone!
  • Out of respect for our Christian brother -- Wait a minute! Are you telling me that it is my fault if a man lusts after me? If it's because of the way you have dressed, then yes! I'm sure it's no surprise to you that men think differently from us, they are more visual thinkers. Your immodest dress may stir up feelings that he doesn't want to be having. Of course, this is something that he has to work on as well. He is responsible for guarding his heart. But as a sister in Christ, we must dress in a way that is not leading him into temptations, and help him not to stumble and fall in this area. 
But take heed lest by any means this liberty of yours become a stumblingblock to them that are weak. For if any man see thee which hast knowledge sit at meat in the idol's temple, shall not the conscience of him which is weak be emboldened to eat those things which are offered to idols; And through thy knowledge shall the weak brother perish, for whom Christ died? But when ye sin so against the brethren, and wound their weak conscience, ye sin against Christ. Wherefore, if meat make my brother to offend, I will eat no flesh while the world standeth, lest I make my brother to offend. (1 Cor 8:9-13)
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How do I possess modesty?

Modesty, like all other aspects of our Christian lives, starts in the heart.  
Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. (1 Peter 3:3-4)

In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; ( 1 Tim 2:9)

If we don't have the right attitude, even if we are covered head to toe, we're still clothed in immodesty. We can't dress with the hopes of drawing attention to ourselves.  We must have a humble spirit. Modesty and humility go hand in hand. 

These verses are not saying that it's sinful for us to braid our hair or to wear jewelry. We can dress cute and wear things that make us feel good as long as we are not doing so in order to draw attention to ourselves. 

So what does modest dress look like?

This is a little more difficult to answer, as some have different convictions regarding modesty. But a good standard for us to start with is that of the old testament priests. (We are after all a "royal priesthood"-1 Peter 2:9) 

Exodus 28 tells us of the dress required of  Aaron and his sons. Basically, they were to be covered from their shoulders to their knees. This standard obviously rules out wearing short or low cut garments. But the tightness of clothing is an issue too. Leggings, tights, skinny jeans, and other tight things do little to cover our bodies. If anything, they emphasize them!  If you are in doubt as to whether something is modest ask your husband or dad. 

When should I be modest?

All the time!! If others will be seeing you, you need to be modestly clothed. Yes, this means even at the pool or beach. Just because a tankini and skirted bottom covers more than a tiny bikini doesn't make it modest! I don't understand why people would try to justify immodest dress in these places. God's commands are always in affect for us. We cannot pick and choose when to follow His commands.  

What does modesty look like to me?

As mentioned previously, the standards of dress found in Exodus 28 are a good place to start. Some may have through prayer and study developed further convictions regarding their dress. So here is what modesty looks like to me--

  • Cleavage--none shown. If someone can see down my shirt by either being taller and looking down or by my bending over then my top is too low cut. A shirt should be placed under it.
  • Sleeves/Straps--shoulders should be covered, no strapless/sleeveless tops. (This is a fairly new conviction of mine. This issue was placed on my heart a while back but I really didn't give it too much thought. But when I felt that issue tugging again, I decided to study and pray more about it.) In Exodus the priests wore a sleeveless garment and then had a robe to cover their shoulders. 
  • Midriff--cover it! Cropped tops are in style now but simply layering a t-shirt under one will make it modest(most likely). 
  • Tightness--no skin tight items. If an item of clothing makes it hard to move or is very clingy, it is too tight. 
  • Length--to the knees. This should be checked when sitting as well. Somethings like to ride up!
  • Bottoms--no pants, only skirts/dresses. I feel that the legs of pants draw a lot of attention to the bottom/crotch and attention doesn't need to be there. (I will probably do another post on this in the future.)
  • Swimsuits--meets all above requirements. I have a swim skirt that is long enough. I wear knee length bicycle shorts underneath because the skirt likes to ride up under water. I am currently on the search for a top. I will most likely get an athletic material shirt and layer a swim top under it. 
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Goodbye 2013 & 1st Trimester!

This week has marked 2 major milestones--the end of 2013 and the start of the 2nd trimester! 
This is the time of year when people start making resolutions for the new year. To me resolutions are those things that get made quickly and are often broken just as fast. But what does resolution really mean? 
Resolution (n): a firm decision to do or not to do something.
It is a firm decision, one that shouldn't be made on a whim. We should spend time and thought of what we really need to change in our lives, what things we want to improve upon. If we are truly making a resolution, a firm decision, then we must try our absolute best to keep them.

Do/did you make resolutions for the new year? I made a few.

*Spend more time daily in prayer/bible study and encouraging others.
*Pay off our last credit card.
*Save for baby items, hospital bills, new(to us) vehicle, and Ryan's schooling.(He's going back to get his masters! :) )
*Gain 20-25lbs :) And then loose it again.
*Continue clean eating and exercise when possible.
*Get everything ready for baby!!!

Sunday marked 13 weeks for me and the end of the 1st trimester! It's hard to believe that this pregnancy is 1/3 of the way over! These first few months can be summed up in a few words - fatigue and "morning" sickness. The morning sickness was by far the worst. I actually lost 15lbs because of it.

But after loosing 2 babies, I am so thankful for these symptoms! I am so thankful everyday when that queasiness hits. Days that don't contain any nausea, like this past Tuesday, make me worry. In fact I was so worried that I prayed to have some morning sickness. Don't do that unless you're really prepared for it because God answered yes to those prayers Wednesday. :)

A few things that we've bought this trimester:
Eddie Bauer Trailmaker Travel System - Clearbrook

We got this stroller and car seat on clearance for 50% the price in store! Regular $219 and we only paid $109. :)

The Pregnancy Companion: A Faith Filled Guide for Your Journey to Motherhood

We actually bought this during a previous pregnancy but I love this book! I think it's so much better than the other pregnancy books I have read. I love that it's written with a focus on faith. 

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What the Bible Says About Children

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God's views on children:
  • He created them
"...thou hast covered me in my mother's womb. I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well." Psalm 139:13-14 
"Thine hands have made me and fashioned me together round about" Job 10:8
" Did not he that made me in the womb make him? and did not one fashion us in the womb?" Job 31:15

  • They are precious to Him 
“Since you were precious in My sight, You have been honored, And I have loved you;" Isaiah 43:4

  • He has a plan for them
 “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you; Before you were born I sanctified you;" Jeremiah 1:5
" For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end." Jeremiah 29:11

  • They are a blessing
" Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate." Psalm 127:3-5
If God says children are a blessing why are we so quick to try and prevent them. I have never known anyone to prevent any other blessings God gives us.(health, financial, ect.) And then people actually apply for a curse(debt)? Seems so backward to me!

Please prayerfully consider your choices.

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Ryan and I are so blessed! God has blessed us with 2 sweet babies in Heaven, and now He has decided to give us another sweet blessing!! :)

Coming early July 2014!
At 7 weeks 4 days

It was so amazing to see how much our little one had changed in just 4 weeks!!

At 11 weeks 4 days
Baby was jumping around so much that the nurse couldn't find the heartbeat with the Doppler. That's why we got the ultrasound at our last appointment! (Heart rate was 165!)

We are so excited to watch this little one grow and to meet them next summer! :)

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Easy Homemade Applesauce!

One of the things I love about fall is that apples are in season! Growing up my Nana always made applesauce for us. It was so yummy! Last year, I decided to try to make some for myself. And was surprised that it was so easy to make! And as an added bonus, the house smells amazing! :)

Here's how:

1.Peel, core, and dice apples. You can use any variety. I use Mutsu. Add to pot with a little water. (I used about 1/2 c. You just want enough to cover the bottom of the pot so the apples don't burn.)

 2.Add cinnamon and sugar if desired. (I don't add any sugar so the recipe is clean. But if you want to use about 1/2 per 10 apples)

3.Cook on Medium heat until soft, stirring occasionally.

As the apples cook down they produce a lot of liquid and smaller pieces will start breaking down. 
They're almost ready now!

 4.Smash apples! I use a pastry blender, but you could use a potato masher or even just smash between spoon and edge of pot. I like to leave some chunks in mine! 

5.Enjoy! Keep in refrigerator or can.

Do you make applesauce? What are your favorite seasonal dishes?

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